Recently had an article published in the Good Life Family publication that got lots of attention so I thought I’d share some of it with you. Take a look at this 3-minute video which tells you about the topic and then scroll down under the video for the powerful 3-Step process for giving yourself JOY.
3-Steps to JOY.
Experiencing JOY starts with your mindset. Imagine that there is a knob at the side of your head just behind your right eye. Imagine that this knob has 2 settings and by turning this knob you can change the settings from ‘Feel Stress’ to ‘Feel JOY
Now, stop reading for a moment and let yourself think about this: Is your knob set at ‘Feel Stress’ or is it set at ‘Feel JOY’?
If it is set at ‘JOY’ congratulate yourself! You don’t need the remainder of this article. If it is set at ‘Stress’ read on for an amazing 3-step process to reset your mind from stress to joy.
- (Indulge me in this exercise – it really works)! Place your thumb, forefinger and middle finger of your right hand round this imaginary knob at the side of your right eye. Turn the knob clockwise to take it off the stress setting to the JOY setting. Note: It is important that you actually physically make that turning movement and ‘see’ the words JOY at the new setting. When you have done this, sit upright, smile and take a long deep breath in and slowly out. Feel the impact of performing this ‘silly’ yet important step.
- Now, think about a situation that you are dealing with – diet, kids in college, your marriage, parents visiting from out of town…any situation that you were stressing about (before you reset the knob). Identify at least 3 things regarding this situation that you can feel grateful for. Recognizing that the challenging situation also has a positive side to it, changes your chemistry and makes place for JOY.
- Finally, consider your different response options and choose the behavior that focuses on the aspects of the situation that you are grateful for. For example, tell your teenager (using a ratio of 5-1) the things about him or her that give you joy – instead of focusing on what you want to ‘fix.’ You will be amazed at how this changes the entire situation from strife to JOY.
JOY is not something that you can ‘fake it until you make it.’ Practice these 3 quick and easy steps in every situation that you are currently stressing about. In a matter of minutes you will experience a sense of lightness; you will notice that you really do feel happy and blessed, you REALLY do feel JOY.