After many years of practice it has become very clear to me that behind every child that is grappling with a learning, behavior or mood challenge there is a parent that is parenting in fight or flight mode. Think about it. If Mom or Dad are in angry, disapproving, negative, over-critical, frustrated mode – or if Mom or Dad are in despondent, quiet, withdrawn, worried, sad mode – what choice does the child have other than to respond by also going into fight or flight mode. Think about this. It would not be possible for any child to be able to think to themselves, ‘Oops this is not good. I am going to stay calm and relaxed and not react to what mom/dad are doing.’ They cant do this so what they do instead is get stressed and learn to display the behaviors of fight or flight. And then some practitioner gives them a label!
Today’s video is a copy of one that I send to the amazing parents who attend my Healing Parent Master Group. Because the content is so important for all parents, I decided to send it to everyone. For those not attending the group – you can just ignore the few seconds where I speak about the group.
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