Psychologists believe that by the time a child is 8 years old, they have pretty much developed an inner ‘Story of Me.’ This becomes their life script so it is hugely important that any child’s ‘Story of Me’ is a joyful, positive and wondrous one that includes many positive beliefs about themselves. If you have a child (or if you teach a child) that has a negative Story of Me, there is exciting scientific research that shows that you can rewrite that story to be a much more positive one!
Listen to today’s 2 minute audio-visual and then put these 3 steps into action every day as you interact with the child. This way you will be sure that you are helping your child – or student- develop a Story of Me that will boost their confidence and help them rise above the challenges of life.
- Focus on the child’s talents, not limitations. Consciously notice the positive characteristics that your child displays and speak about these to the child. This will help him or her build a positive self-identity.
- Use the 5-1 ration of positive to negative statements. This way the child will begin to ‘wire’ his or her brain to believe, “That’s Me! I am OK!”
- Each time you offer the child positive feedback, be sure that the conversation about this lasts at least 30 seconds and includes reasons for why you say this. For example: ‘You are such a kind person. Did you know that? You were really kind to Sally yesterday when she didn’t know how to do her math homework. I am so proud of you. It is a gift to be such a kind person’ It has been shown that for the child to create a strong neural pathway and ‘wire’ this message into his brain, the conversation should be more than just a quick sentence.
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