In a world where too many kids struggle to learn easily, feel good and behave positively, there is nothing more empowering for a parent than to know how to Take Charge and help them.
If you read my blog or follow my work, you know that my mission is to help fill the world with resilient, talented, problem-free children. I do this by empowering parents with knowledge, tools and skills that will ensure that moms and dads know how to help their kids be all they can be.
The truth is that moms and dads have a challenge because conventional medicine does not always have the latest answers. If you’re lucky, you have a physician who has kept up with the amazing newest developments and options for treating your child’s problems. If you’re not so lucky you can end up feeling frustrated when you have tried several things, including medication, and yet your child continues to grapple with his or her problems.
Many parents don’t know that there is a treatment solution that is helping children finally get rid of their learning and behavior problems. It is an approach that heals kids from the inside-out instead of from the outside-in. In other words we FIND and FIX the hidden underlying root causes, we don’t treat the symptoms. While I specialize in this approach, there are many healthcare practitioners who do not and instead continue to treat the symptoms without looking for the causes. This is why so many kids never get rid of their problems.
Here are five tips for interviewing and choosing the right healthcare practitioner for your child.
1. Gather Your Courage
Being a Take Charge Mom or Dad means being your child’s advocate and voice. It’s like campaigning for your child. This requires chutzpah and courage, as well as the ability to be forthright about your requirements and expectations. Remember that you are the greatest advocate for your child’s treatment and care. Ask the tough questions and be assertive – your child’s future depends on it.
2. Gather Your Information
It is important that you are up to date in reading about the latest research and information concerning your child’s symptoms. It is a good idea to present the practitioner with your own research on the topic. If you’ve done your homework, feel free to take along books, studies or other materials on the subject. This will let the practitioner know that you’re informed and serious about getting answers. Prepare a list of specific questions. You can then compare your doctor’s answers to your own research – or you can get a second opinion.
3. Ask these Questions
You want to be sure that the practitioner you choose knows how to treat the whole child – not just the symptoms and treats each child as a unique individual. Ask the following questions:
- Will you look for, and treat, the root causes of my child’s problems?
- How do you do this? How do you identify underlying causes?
- Is your diagnostic and treatment approach personalized and different for each child?
- Do you treat the child or the diagnostic label?
4. Seek until you Find
If you’re not confident in the healthcare practitioner’s responses you may need to shop around for a practitioner with who is like-minded with you and your needs and values. Ask other parents who may be dealing with problems with their kids. Finding the right healthcare practitioner can take some time and effort. Do your research, read patient reviews and study a physician’s background, qualifications and approach before you even have a consultation. Trust your intuition. When it’s right, you’ll know.
5. Be a Stress-less Advocate
It is tough to be a Take Charge, courageous, focused and informed advocate for your child if you are stressed. It is also not easy to be intuitive and present when you feel stress levels are high and you feel overwhelmed. High, ongoing stress can make it difficult for us to make good decisions and for us to parent effectively.
This will give you an indication of whether your stress level is at a healthy level or too high. Healthy stress is good. It helps us achieve great things. High stress levels sabotage us physically, mentally, emotionally and every other way. Your children need you to stress less so that you can be a great advocate for them. You will know that you have the right practitioner when this person is available and not offended by your interview questions and when he or she listens carefully to your expectations and explains to you, if, and how, they can meet these expectations.