- I am overweight – especially in the belly.
- My energy is not as good as I would like it to be.
- I am stressed.
- I can tend to be moody.
- I don’t sleep well and/or I wake up tired
- I worry a lot.
- I am anxious a good deal of the time.
- I sometimes find it hard to be organized, think clearly or remember things.
- It is hard for me to kick back, relax and be joyful.
- I don’t laugh out loud several times a day.
If you answered YES to 5 or more, this could be a sign that your hormones are out of whack and that your cortisol levels are high. This will put fat around your belly – and not only externally but also around your liver and other organs. The high cortisol will also rob you of your happy neurochemical serotonin. It will cause cravings for all the wrong foods. It will cause issues with dopamine which affects your ability to focus, be organized and think clearly. None of this is good news.
Here’s the BIG one! If your hormones are out of whack, this can affect your parenting style.
Answer these questions to assess the effect your hormones may be having on your parenting. Not all the time – but certainly more often than I would like:
- I can be irritable or short-tempered.
- I have to pretend that I feel good (kids know when you are pretending).
- I yell at them.
- I say something that I regret later.
- I am hurrying them.
- I listen to the kids with ‘half an ear’ because my mind is elsewhere.
- I focus on the negatives rather than the positive.
- I have to tell them the same things over and over again.
- I give in to them because it is just easier.
This article applies to ALL Moms out there. But, if you are a mom that has a child who grapples with a learning, behavior or mood problem, it is even more applicable because it is stressful watching a child grapple with problems. I know that all Mom you would do anything to help your children. So here’s something to remember:
When you are calm and happy your kids will be calm and happy. Your stress is their stress. Your calm is their calm.
Moms you deserve to feel happy, joyful, energetic and alive! You owe it to yourself and your kids to Take Charge of your parenting style. Step one would be to check your hormones. If you are unsure how to begin – ask me.