NeuroParenting Tip of the Day.
Know Your Child’s Self-Esteem
Kids, of any age, that do not believe in themselves, who have low self-confidence and who do not see themselves as being special, are at risk when it comes to social media. A teenager who is emotionally vulnerable and insecure may be inclined to post inappropriate content on social networking sites. They have a need for validation which may cause them to post unsuitable or inaccurate content as a way of gaining attention and approval.
Children with low self-esteem also tend to make comparisons between themselves and others. They will perceive their peers as having many more friends than they have and as living a more exciting life than they do. This can lead to increased feelings of inadequacy, withdrawal and even depression.
How to deal with this.
Don’t be in denial
Don’t be in denial about signs of inadequacy in your child. Is your child always trying to please? Is he or she always concerned about what others think? Hoping they will grow out of it is not a good plan. Low self-esteem is often the result of stress. Identify and remove the stress.
Monitor your kids social media activities
Know which social media sites your child uses – there are lots of new ones parents do not know about.
Agree, don’t argue
Explain to your children why you are monitoring their social media activity but be sure to have this conversation in a way that is not an argument or a punishment but rather a harmonious agreement on boundaries.
Know the effects of social media on your child
Be vigilant for signs of insecurity, withdrawal and even depression that could be triggered or aggravated by your child’s social media activities.