Stress is the most ignored, most misunderstood and most dangerous condition that exists today. Yet the reality is that your children are feeling enormously stressed and pressurized by all the expectations placed on them. Chronic stress triggers physical and chemical changes in our body and brain which leads to behavior and learning problems, as well as pretty much every health issue. It is a scientifically proven fact that stressed children find it difficult to learn, behave appropriately and feel healthy and happy. So why would we ever consider wearing blinders about the issue of stress?
The question is, ‘Do you know how to deal with this?’
My perception is that too many parents and teachers just keep ignoring the fact that the children are experiencing chronic stress. Sure, they know that their kids are stressed but they just keep pushing them and piling up the stress until something gives – either emotionally or physically and usually both. Of course, this is never done with bad intentions. In fact all parents, I know, are worried about the stress their kids feel. They speak about it all the time. But they don’t know how to deal with this or what to do differently to help reduce their children’s stress.
One brave and inventive mom, Vicky Abeles, decided to Take Charge! and do something about this. She has created an amazing (and scary) documentary about stress in children, called, Road to Nowhere. I would recommend that you try and catch a screening of this in your area.
Like Vicky Abeles, I too am very concerned about what stress is doing to our children and the way that parents and teachers and doctors are (unintentionally) allowing this to reach epidemic proportions. Don’t think that I am anti-doctors or anti-medications or anti -teachers or parents. Not at all! I am anti the way that stress is currrnetly dealt with. The popular mindset seems to be that if a child shows behavior or learning issues, the first step of action is to take them to a doctor who specializes in those symptoms. I would like parents to know that there is another option that they should try first, before rushing off to get a diagnosis and most likely, drugs and perhaps psychotherapy. This is the Take Charge! option, and it involves treating the cause instead of the symptom. When you treat the symptom, the original cause, which is stress, still remains. So you might succeed in drugging one symptom but if the stress continues another symptom will pop up. In addition, the whole doctor-medical label-medication-side-effects-doctor-medication syndrome is an awful way of increasing stress – both in the parents as well as the child.
A mother who was in my audience at a recent teacher conference saw me a few days after the conference and told me that she had asked her son if she causes him to feel stressed. He told her that she does. She asked him to assess how much, on a ten point scale, and he said nine and a half. Without intending to do this, and without being aware that she was doing it, this very loving and supportive mother discovered that she is causing her child to feel high levels of stress.
So I would like to invite you to help me start a movement to reduce stress and stop over diagnosing, misdiagnosing and drugging our kids! This cannot go on. If you agree with me about this, let’s join forces and Take Charge!
Here’s How You Take Charge
- No more denial or avoidance. Face the fact that your children are under enormous stress. Some kids feel this more than others but they all have some level of stress.
- Learn about the powerful new way of understanding what stress is, how it impacts the child, and what the latest and best options are to help the child deal with the stress.
- Become an educated stress detective. Learn how to recognize signs of stress in your children in the early stages before it does too much damage.
- If stress has already created a learning, behavior or health symptom, know how to cleanse the child’s body and brain of the impact of that stress, without resorting to drugs.
- Tell other parents, teachers and doctors what you have learned – you could change a child’s life!
- Discover what other parents are doing to reduce and remove stress in their children.
Are you prepared to devote time to this?
Parents and teachers, you play such a powerful role in the children whose lives you touch. Those kids need you to Take Charge! and be updated and educated and fully informed. They need you to invest time in learning all about the role of stress and how this impacts them. Above all they need you to have the skills that will enable you to play a significant role in preventing and healing the terrible effects of stress, which are reaching epidemic proportions!